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Sales sux! I don’t want to sell because I don’t like being sold to. Authentic sales?, I don’t know. The bottom line in sales is just that — The bottom line! That has to be a major driving factor, otherwise why would you be doing it? I just see it it as the seller doing whatever they can to transfer money from my pocket to theirs. Do they REALLY want to help me, who knows and how can you tell anyway? Sounds cynical I know but I just cringe if I know Im being sold to. Its a major turn off. Sales is in our faces 24/7 from TV to billboards, even between points in the tennis!! It’s out of control and intrusive.

I can’t wait! The universe is sending me this information through the both of you because of the way I have been rockin’ at Marketing myself, now if I can just grab a hold of myself and find the confidence within to land sales I know I will be dangerous. Sales is hard because I feel like people will over question me to test my knowledge in what I am selling. I fold to that pressure. Teach me how to overcome that hurdle?

I don’t like the hard sell but I do like the soft sell where people share what is important to them but it does need to be authentic. I don’t like when people go on and on and on, I like to know the information and then let me decide. I am stoked to hear what you have to tell us and I am looking forward to coming to Boulder in April!

I concur with Aaja. My biggest block is undercharging because 1: I feel I can get by without the extra money for now (even though it means not realizing my dreams) and 2: I hate taking people’s hard earned cash. What if I’m not/my skills aren’t worth charging full price? Then I’m ripping them off and I couldn’t handle that.

I hate invading someone’s space to ask for money even though I believe in the product being of wonderful quality and increasing the client’s life in some small way. It feels borderline confrontational unless they are seeking me out. I also have a hard time being excited about commission based systems of salary, it feels like the person who hires me doesn’t believe in me rather than an exciting opportunity. Logically I understand but in my gut it feels wrong. I’m sure there is a lack of confidence somewhere in making that kind of leap but I have always ended up as some version of “employee of the month/top goals reached” but I have a hard time with this feeling. I am looking forward to your series!

I hate people trying to get money from me just because they want it, not because I need to buy something or actually want that service. I have a hard time saying what I really want to say in response – what’s right for me. I really don’t want other people to feel that kind of pressure from me on any level. It feels better if they come searching and asking for something because then they definately want it – I’m not persuading them or pushing it onto them in any way. Totally free choice, knowing the cost already. I hate hard sales, or anything not upfront. I too feel like I’d be intruding. Actually asking for anything feels horrid to me. Right now I’d rather give away my services – that just feels better! – but I know it’s going to get me nowhere moneywise!

I don’t do sale at all… I believe in what I do, people come to me for it, but then I end up giving it for free…. I feel I’m not making a huge effort that is worth the money that people pay. My ultimate goal is to help people, but I’ve got to pay the bills as well! So Help!
 
P.S. David your tattoo is fake! and Kristine you Rock in red lipstick!

Love,

Eiman from the UAE

I also have a block to feeling that I and what I can offer are really worth paying a lot of money for.

nice dress
I am scared of selling. I am scared of blaming myself. I am scared of being judged. I am scared of being put off. I just want to do a good job and I love my work. At the same time I hide and do not tell anyone what I am doing and where I can provide support. Additionally I do not have a website yet. There is another block inside, not showing up, not showing myself in public…etc.
So these are my thoughts concerning sales at present.

Best wishes to you Kristin and David! Thank you so much again for all your support and guidance! You are so inspiring!

im more for a non leader solution. more with real people. so im consider on get off ure list. still ure a inspirating pople. im just too much wandering. or my main skill is wandering. so im unsure if internt markting is the right thing.

like i said. i fear the simlicity the stiffnes of marketing. the fear to fail. the presure of my family. the love to chill and hang around. the love to play. my spooky being.

Just the thought of selling turns me stone cold and beside myself with fear. Do I have a product that anyone else would even consider; I hate pushy sales people- I don’t want to be like that ; I don’t want to have to convince anyone that they need my product, they should want it naturally; I don’t want anyone to feel obliged to have what it is that I am trying to sell. Fear, fear, fear….. and am longing to break through this. 
Thank you for everything so far
With love to you bothPS love the blonde hair, David!!! 

Making cold calls on the phone paralyzesme! I would rather clean house instead and I HATE vacuuming!

I am actually quite good at selling per se – I say that if I had had the calling I would have med a great pastor. But. BUT I just can NOT sell ANYTHING that has to do with ME. My skills, my mind, my ideas, my anything. I just go blank. I go paralyzed. Intellectually I know how good I am, how skilled I am, how inspirational I am to others, but I can just not make myself market me for money. PHEW. 

I can sell something that I truly believe in. I feel it inside me and I just want to share it However, for some reason I have difficulty attaching value/money to what it is I’m selling, i.e. my services. I never know what to charge and think it may still be so difficult because I’m still uneasy in my own self worth??

It is easier to sell something for someone else thenitis to sell something for myself.

OMG!!! YOU ARE SOMETHING ELSE!!! I LOVE YOU!! I LOVE YOUR 80′S VIDEO.

I can’t wait for this event!  I feel cheesy trying to convince someone that they ‘need’ something that I can give them.  I offer support and information and insights to friends and yoga students all the time, but how do I EXPAND on that in a marketable way, w/o feeling like a “saleswoman” (what I really mean is w/o feeling like someone in a polyester suit trying to sell a used car or tupperware to someone who wants neither!) you 2 are fabulous fun – you do inspire me.  at the back of my mind, I must admit, I do think to myself, ya, and they have wealth already behind them, and when you are living week to week on what you make, life is very different – isn’t it?!  xoxo

I am constantly selling:  ideas, great products I’ve found, music, movies, but I’m really just offering, not actually getting paid for my information.  I am ready to rock my prosperity so want to learn entrepreneurship and being a rock star at selling what I believe in.  Thanks D & K!  And YOU ROCK! 

I’m just really bad at convincing people I’m good at what I do. I’m certain I do a better job than some of the other people who basically steal my customers, just because they sound all confident and they know what to say to make people buy their services. I know I do a good job and I really want to help other people with what I’m good at, but I just don’t know how to make them trust me with the job.

My biggest blog is trying to figure out where to sale on the internet that is a step ahead of everyone else.  I have had some success but it is mild and I feel if I could get on the cutting edge marketing area I would have great success.  Everyone always teaches you what worked for them, the problem is that now hundreds of thousands of others are trying those things.  I want to find a new selling platform that is new and fresh, where can I find it?

I feel like most people are not ready for what I have to offer or not interested in what I have to say. For example I was on the cutting edge of a lot of things that are now becoming common place — doing european skin care back in the 80′s until now, doing home colonics when the public didn’t know what I was talking about, custom-fit bras without underwires (just heard this week about dangers of underwires), all since the 80′s and my friends thought I was weird and doing things that were “too expensive” .  But now they brag on my skin and health.  I feel like most people are coming from a place of lack and not willing to spend the money for things that will benefit them and return the investment in the longrun.  They are too short sighted.  Now I’m into what you are offering with “Everything is Energy”, and I don’t talk it up because I think  the people around me won’t receive it .  I buy a protein drink that I could get a discount on if I get others to buy, but again it is expensive, and I’m tired of trying to convince people of truth when all they want is an easy way out.  

I’m good at doing my homework and recognizing a good product/service when I find it.  I’m not good at convincing other people.

for some reason, (no doubt an energetic block in there somewhere ), I can’t separate a “no I don’t want your product/service” from a  rejection of me and so I approach every sale with fear at my core.  Now that is not attractive!

1. I have tons of great ideas but no expertise in selling (I have been a stay at home mom while our 3 kids were living at home). 2.My enthusiasm gets deflated if I get negative feedback and then drop the whole thing. 3. Fear of success since it might attract all the wrong people and I might get overwhelmed by the workload (we have had money in the past and life got complicated).4. Life gets complicated when you have lots of money. 5. Great ideas get stolen and you have to move quickly to carve out your niche in the market.
BTW tattoo looks real. Probably some tatoo nylon sleeve contraption.

Don’t want people to think I am trying to swindle them or profit off of them.  i would never!  

I fear rejection!

haha… this is so fun. thank you for the great time while seeing this. i am into sales and have three things that block me.
1. i feel strange when i tell people that and why the products are great. something like “i really know that it is true” and “this is not authentic, they must believe i am trying to betray them”.
2. like someone wrote before, i feel bad when people do not like/can’t use/can’t buy the products. the separation between saying no to the products and saying no to me is not easy.
3. i often feel bad after sales situations. like i said something wrong, did something wrong, messed up the whole thing, wasn’t good enough, blablabla. 

when i look at this it seems like it’s all about self-worth and/or authenticity.

I have not had much training, a bit in Network Marketing…. always been told that I radiate my passion when I believe in something/product, but can’t seem to close the deal and get the sale and business moving in a positive direction get fizzled out….I hate sales and hate being sold to…. Internet selling kind of overwhelms me so a real block
You two are a hoot! Full of passion and imagination!
Best Lorrie

You two are amazing! I just love your videos. Thank you for the opportunity to work with you and learn from you Kristin and David!
What turns me away about sales people or pitches are usually caused by the following:
Feeling that people are only ‘behind’ their product for the money they will make.  Missing the trust aspect and if what they are selling, really is what they’re promoting; if it is truthful.
<3 Renee

Three areas that block my success in sales:  I don’t value myself as much as I should, so I don’t value what I do.  In trying to respect the customer, I lean over backwards trying NOT to convince them but to give them a free choice.  I talk too much.

Love your outfits and your 80′s gestures.  You got it down pat.  Rock on, D&K.

Having to try and convince people to try and buy what I have to offer, because it doesn’t necessarily always feel as authentic as I’d like – especially when people are kinda iffy about it.

Having to try and convince people to try and buy what I have to offer, because it doesn’t necessarily always feel as authentic as I’d like – especially when people are kinda iffy about it.

I have a deep core mistrust of sales people.  I mistrust their connection to my wellbeing and believe they don’t care a fig about me so long as they can get my money.  I want to be connected to human well-being FIRST, and offer products/services that I believe will promote human well-being individually and collectively (like you guys!) before I will attempt to sell something.
I am naturally charismatic and generally good at “schmoozing”, but also am sabotaged by a “I’m not good enough/I don’t deserve success/”If I am getting rich someone else must be suffering” belief system.
I find it a hard balance to strike between believing in the transformative power of what I am selling, and the temptation to use marketty, manipulative sales tricks to get people to hand over their money.  Marketing always seems to objectify people as wallets that I can pick, rather than a human who will benefit from a genuine service I can offer.  You know?  I know it is not that black and white, but that is my attempt to put into words my distaste for most of (how I perceive) marketing.
I guess that will all be addressed under the category of authenticity.
I am anatural born caretaker, and i caretake around other people’s need for money too much!  I don’t like to take it when I have a lack mentality!  (Laughing and shaking my head at myself.  Sheesh.  Who knew?  It was good to have to answer this.)

I have a deep core mistrust of sales people.  I mistrust their connection to my wellbeing and believe they don’t care a fig about me so long as they can get my money.  I want to be connected to human well-being FIRST, and offer products/services that I believe will promote human well-being individually and collectively (like you guys!) before I will attempt to sell something.
I am naturally charismatic and generally good at “schmoozing”, but also am sabotaged by a “I’m not good enough/I don’t deserve success/”If I am getting rich someone else must be suffering” belief system.
I find it a hard balance to strike between believing in the transformative power of what I am selling, and the temptation to use marketty, manipulative sales tricks to get people to hand over their money.  Marketing always seems to objectify people as wallets that I can pick, rather than a human who will benefit from a genuine service I can offer.  You know?  I know it is not that black and white, but that is my attempt to put into words my distaste for most of (how I perceive) marketing.
I guess that will all be addressed under the category of authenticity.
I am anatural born caretaker, and i caretake around other people’s need for money too much!  I don’t like to take it when I have a lack mentality!  (Laughing and shaking my head at myself.  Sheesh.  Who knew?  It was good to have to answer this.)

Sales is hard for me because I sell what I believe in – yet I don’t want to “convince” someone of the worth of what I am selling.  This is because then I would be responsible if they do not love it, too.  Some how I believe sales is a low class thing to do.

Sales is hard for me because I sell what I believe in – yet I don’t want to “convince” someone of the worth of what I am selling.  This is because then I would be responsible if they do not love it, too.  Some how I believe sales is a low class thing to do.

I have a hard time believing in myself as a salesperson. I’m not a pushy person, and for the last ten plus years I sat in a cubicle writing web sites, not really interacting with clients.

I always expect that people are thinking that I am trying to rip them off and that puts a big dent in my sails

Bob

How can I sell myself, when I’m not sure I have anything to give?

Trying to sell something to someone that they either doesn’t really want or need it. Also, I have been told so many untruths about a product, I don’t think other people believe me eitherwhen I am trying to sell. Lastly rejection makes me want to hide.  

I really do not like to hear no, and that keeps me from asking again after hearing it. How do I not take this personally and just keep asking?

My challenges with sales is that I probably don’t get it out to enough or the right people. I feel for the small pool of people I have overall been successful.
I also don’t always ask for the sale in a powerful way, because I am afraid I might be pushy by not connecting properly with my power side….
Not having a clear sales presentation (working on that now). I can see how that will really help too.
Working on this stuff, however I always love to hear your thoughts and integrate what I can. BTW I am loving the prosperity tribe

I hate hearing no. Each time I hear it I feel like I am being personally rejected. I also hate the way people look when they are uninterested. I become super sensitive to other people’s energy when I am rejected or hear no. I also start to stress and feel desperate because I need the money to pay for the booth, to make it worth my time to sell what I have, and each no takes me further from my goal.

What bugs me about sales is:  People know I”m after something – THEIR BUSINESS – and somehow I can’t get past that “selling them something – for my benefit” despite whether it provides something for them!!

I collapse as soon as I detect the slightest inkling that the prospect thinks I might not be telling the truth or that they don’t really need what I’m trying to sell them.  I worry that they might not use my services again–the ones that got me in the door in the first place.

I co-own a brick and mortar business.  It is difficult for me to walk into other businesses to sell my business.  I feel uncomfortable soliciting another business to get customers.  Also, I am not sure who I should talk with about the store and what we have to offer.

Lastly, I am not a impromptu person.  My confidence is best when I know what I am going to say before I enter a situation.

Inside the store, I don’t have a problem talking with the customers, helping figure out what they are looking for and telling them about the products.  I find being honest and informing the customer works best.

YOU ARE SOOOOOOOOOOO FUNNY, so funny
so glad to have you in my life
Thank you thank you thank you thank you
so hope I will make it to Colorado, just need!!!!!!!! to meet you in person you awesome people send to me right into my living room

hug and love
Lea

People exaggerate about products they may be trying to sell. When you feel this it is uncomfortable.

Written or video materials about a firm’s capabilities are cafefully worded to bring out the best and it is only through meeting the principals that you can receive a true reading of the firms intentions and ability to do a job for you. 

Multi level marketing can be obnoxious because when the economy is slow and the company is not growing the people at the bottom of the scale are hard pressed to make money but are the ones who are making money for the individuals at the top. It is difficult to watch them struggle for nothing.

I have had deep seated blocks to selling anything, I know these blocks comes from repeated events in my childhood.  I have so much courage in so many ways, but I become afraid when it comes to selling people something.  The coaching I’ve received from the prosperity tribe team is transforming my life.  By focusing on what is going to truly serve a client, perceiving what is going to be the right match for them, and believing in them, I am inviting them to experience the training that has transformed my life.  Now I can come from a truly authentic space of offering the best investment I have every made in my life to someone else.  

With deep felt love and profound thanks you all, David, Kristin and the entire everything is energy & prosperity tribe team,

I truly believe in authenticity, I’ve seen it work, in small ways in my marketing, but never to the “MILLIONS!!!!” that I would like it to. I want to meet my rock star mark, but I feel there is something inside me that is apprehensive, maybe because I have only seen smaller results, maybe it’s hard to imagine bringing in the big bucks…. not sure what the blocks are that are keeping me back. This is me being as authentic as possible: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ngOylLwLDg
maybe you have a few suggestions as to how I can get Rock star results…
ps. I really do dream of being a rock star. Love the tattoos and the Stones T-shirt

What bugs me about sales is that somehow I’m often slightly off the right track. Examples: making a sales-presentation to someone who is not the right person (although very close to it) who is allowed in closing the deal with me. Or: marketing products a bit too soon or just a bit too late. So not at the moment in which there is great demand for it. 
To summarize: coming close (people, products, marketing), but missing the ideal people or time. It’s kind of frustrating because often I could feel that there was potential and demand for what I had to offer. 

JUST LOOOOOOOOOOVE YOUR VIDEO!!!!!! THANK YOU DAVID & KRISTIN AND THANKS TO THE UNIVERSE FOR BEING ABLE TO CONNECT WITH YOU!!!!!!                  SALES=INTIMIDATION, PANIC, FEAR OF NOT DOING CORRECTLY.

Hi D&K,

How to take the struggle sensation out of selling – that would be great.
I actually LIKE sales when it’s something I really believe in.  I get energized recommending something that will enhance or heal someone’s life.  There is the art and science and practical side to doing it right too…  Maybe I get bogged down in that?  And I know now that the right energy has to be behind it (in myself) or people get skitchy.  Maybe I was talking to the wrong people?  Or was I too attached to their response?  Hmmm, yes, I think all the above was turning the experience into a nonfun struggle… Would love to change that (!)

xox, Cindy

My first sales experience was very positive, I rocked until I realized that the story I was told by adults to close the deals was unethical. So, at that point I made a decision never to sell again. With that said, I know realize the different styles of salesmanship.

What I don’t like about Sales:
1) Hype, fake, phoney.
2) When I am passionate and joyful about something, I want to share — offer it for free; it doesn’t feel right to sell it.
3) It takes so much energy and time away from creating. For example, creating an artwork is a separate act from selling it.
4) I do not like to tell individuals what to do, how to be, what to spend their money on. I do not feel like an authority on anyone other than myself.
5) I come from a background of scarcity, so I empathize with people who cannot afford to buy.
6) I mistrust the internet and do not want to broadcast my personal life, something I tend to believe is necessary for a web-based business. (Please tell me I am wrong.)

I am not as cranky as I sound!!! ; )
But these are the honest areas where I have resistance…. esp. when I think of selling MYSELF.
Actually, I am a (fairly successful) self-employed consultant. I have no prob selling my services to corporations. If they need my services, I do a great job and enjoy serving. But that work is not my “soul” work. Most of my conflicts are about Sales relating to something I care about.
Does that make sense????!!

Thank you both for keeping us the higher vibe with good humor!

What bugs me about sales, hmmm???… when i approach customers, what should I say to incline them into what I am selling?  Kristen, David it is always a pleasure to hear from you!!!

What bugs me about sales: I guess I feel insecure doing it. I love to sell and I am good at hosting but when it comes to being the person in front of others, or asking to purchase, i feel insecure.

I have had fantastic sales people sell me things that I TRULY did not need, or really want.  So I really dislike that about sales, the way sometimes sale people pressure people into buying something they don’t need or want… and typically that would be the “good” salesperson, since there super effective.

I used to dislike ‘sales’, ‘selling’ and ‘asking for money.’ Now, it’s all shifted and getting better every day. I’ve learned that I’m great at sharing and influencing, especially when I’m coming from my core and not my head or fears. When I connect with folks I’m much more powerful and they ask my to sign up, the price is irrelevent as they see the value and sell themselves. The part I’m having a more difficult time now is on collecting full payment when the contracts are already signed. Tips?

My small attempt at sales made me feel like I was manipulating someone into buying something they didn’t need, although I always liked the idea of sales because I like to talk and communicate and move around naturally in the world, rather than be behind a desk in a boring job.  Recently, I have been part of wine-tasing for a wine distributor, giving customers sips of wine while explaining the wines.  I stay pretty neutral, just smile genuinely.  This may be a first step.

It makes me feel cheap.  Like I’m having to convince someone to buy a fraudulent bill of goods!  Perhaps because I feel like a fraud?  And the crazy thing is that I’m sooo not that person!

You said that beautifully, Rox!  I get that 100%!!

 Ella

You said that beautifully, Rox!  I get that 100%!!

 Ella

Ditto!!  I know we’re wrong about that fact,  but nonetheless it RULES the day!

Ditto!!  I know we’re wrong about that fact,  but nonetheless it RULES the day!

You and I have the same issues!!  LOL  Only YOU said it way better!!…you’re a natural

I agree, Aaja. While I have no problem selling myself at a conference or speaking to someone if they initiate contact, I feel I am intruding on their time and adding to an overly consumer-oriented society. My potential clients are best reached at the dinner hour or later (when they are likely helping kids with homework or putting them to bed). I feel I am interrupting them and that if they need me, they will call. From every sales book I’ve read one contact is not enough, but two or three or more calls seems like pestering.When I’ve called more than once, some contacts will even say “If I need you, I’ll call you”. I was raised a good, Catholic girl who was taught to do a good job and you will be rewarded. I do a great job, charge a fair price, but hate to “chase” the work and don’t feel comfortable using sales talks superlatives about myself. I feel it’s arrogant to say “I’m the best in the business” or “Hire me and I guarantee everyone will LOVE the performance. While 99 percent of the time that’s true, there are some folks who don’t like or get what I do. I hate maknig promises I can’t be absolutely sure to keep.

LOVE YOU 2!!! YOU LOOK SO CUTE TOGETHER!!!

When I get ready to close I start to close my prospect, I feel like a fish out of water and al of a sudden lack confidence.

It bothers me to ask for payment, so many times i’ve tried and mostly ended giving the products away and I ended paying for it.

I really dislike asking people to pay for my services – I feel that it should be free.  There is a part of me that knows that I am on the planet to help others be the best they can be as spirits on the planet.  How can I ask money for that?  So I only charge “bulk-billing” – what Medicare pays… for my counselling sessions.  Also aware that people are normally already stressed about money – and I don’t want to add to that….Helma

I love sales and I can do it but don’t like to repeat the same sell story over and over again for people to buy my product, I feel when people look at your product and they like it they will buy it, so why should I talk to much to sell, sales should be in abundance, but it is not so what should I do?

I feel like a confidant person, until money is involved.  I can inspire people to volunteer or protest or write their congresspeople for a cause, but when it comes to the exchange of money that’s where I lose my confidence.  I just want to give things away and be generous.

Hello Morelli’s, Jackie Garcia here. I’ve come to understand where i come from, that most of my people don’t understand internet where i come from. Most of the people around me live off of love cause money we just don’t have. But most of all they have someone like me to show them the way of living life right. And most of us we’re raised that the internet is work of the devil, just like card reading that we’re evil. And i am showing my people that the old wayz are not right, and that there is a way out of thinking like that. anywayz with love & respect $La Raza$

well thanks again the world for coming into my e-mail.. what an adventure. WEll, I was a teacher for many years, but not now..  To answer your question about what i hate about sales–absolutley, not much, except of course trying to reach other people’s self imposed goals that they place on you which are not realistic– I love the concept of sales,, is that every communication in the world with others reflects a sales drive…and the diversity of the layers is what excites me… 

HAY, LOVE YOU GUYS;;THANKS FOR THE E-MAILS”’STAY FUN”’ANZZETTA

what really bugs me about sales?… the ‘feeling’ of having to pay for what is a ‘birth right’… I know I know that has a whole other piece to it but I’m being brief here. I just wish it would all flow with Grace and ease and not have any contraction in the mix… it seems like I’m great at promoting other people, places, and things but when it comes to my self I get a little squirmy; though I AM getting MUCH better at this alignment… yeah.. there is still room for growth and expansion!

Hey Nicky – Im hearing ya!!!  Yes the same old pitch is sooo boring – when people look at our product I ask them lots of questions – that way they do all the talking and through that find out how/if the product I represent can help them.

My confidence, or lack there of, bugs me when it comes to sales. I also hate the feeling I have to prove something or convince someone of something and may lose. Having to perform, and if I don’t sell, I don’t get paid, not approved or, etc…bottom line, THE PRESSURE…
CTTDESIGNS

I just got into direct sales and so far I LOVE IT!  What I don’t like is my compulsion. It’s hard for me to stop and have a balanced life.

I TURN RED AND HAVE ANCIETY ATTACKS. AND IF THAT IS NOT ENOUGH SOMETIMES I BECOME FROZEN AND CAN’T TALK THAT IS ALL